Moving forward after loss
Then, leaving her body, he said to the Hittite elders, “Here I am, a stranger and a foreigner among you. Please sell me a piece of land so I can give my wife a proper burial.” Genesis 23:3-4
We have all experienced times of loss in our lives like the passing of a grandparent or parent. Maybe you have even experienced the loss of an immediate family member. These moments are heavy, and they leave a lasting impact on our hearts. In Genesis 23, Abraham faced such a time when Sarah, his wife, passed away. His grief was real, yet what stands out is how he carried himself through it. Even in the pain, he took careful steps forward, honoring both God and the memory of his wife.
I have felt that pain of losing loved ones. Those losses have left me feeling unsteady. When a close family member passed away, the grief was overwhelming. Everyday life felt strange, as if the world was moving on without me. During that time, I realized that moving forward didn’t mean forgetting. It meant honoring what was lost while trusting God with each next step. Like Abraham, I found that even small steps of faith matter in times of loss and pain.
This chapter speaks to anyone who is trying to keep moving when life has been shaken by loss. We can honor God in the way we handle decisions, interact with others, and move into the next season of our life with Him. Just as Abraham showed integrity and humility in negotiating for Sarah’s burial place, we can walk through our own losses with grace and faith.
Here are some ways to walk this out in your life:
- Keep a steady heart before God in prayer and tell Him exactly how you feel.
- Take small, intentional steps forward, even if they feel slow.
- Treat others with kindness and integrity, even in the middle of personal pain.
- Seek wise counsel for important decisions during times of loss.
- Honor the memory of those you have lost in ways that bring God glory.
Begin by bringing your grief and questions to God in prayer. Open the Bible to passages that remind you of His comfort, like Psalm 34:18. Find one small action today that moves you forward, whether it is making a phone call, sending a note, or spending time with someone who encourages your faith.
Today I want to encourage you that God sees every tear and knows every ache in your heart. Loss is never easy, but you are not walking through it alone. Just as He was faithful to Abraham, He will be faithful to you in this time and beyond. Trust Him to lead you into what is next and keep your heart open to His peace.
Today’s scripture reading: Genesis 23
1 When Sarah was 127 years old,
2 she died at Kiriath-arba (now called Hebron) in the land of Canaan. There Abraham mourned and wept for her.
3 Then, leaving her body, he said to the Hittite elders,
4 “Here I am, a stranger and a foreigner among you. Please sell me a piece of land so I can give my wife a proper burial.”
5 The Hittites replied to Abraham,
6 “Listen, my lord, you are an honored prince among us. Choose the finest of our tombs and bury her there. No one here will refuse to help you in this way.”
7 Then Abraham bowed low before the Hittites
8 and said, “Since you are willing to help me in this way, be so kind as to ask Ephron son of Zohar
9 to let me buy his cave at Machpelah, down at the end of his field. I will pay the full price in the presence of witnesses, so I will have a permanent burial place for my family.”
10 Ephron was sitting there among the others, and he answered Abraham as the others listened, speaking publicly before all the Hittite elders of the town.
11 “No, my lord,” he said to Abraham, “please listen to me. I will give you the field and the cave. Here in the presence of my people, I give it to you. Go and bury your dead.”
12 Abraham again bowed low before the citizens of the land,
13 and he replied to Ephron as everyone listened. “No, listen to me. I will buy it from you. Let me pay the full price for the field so I can bury my dead there.”
14 Ephron answered Abraham,
15 “My lord, please listen to me. The land is worth 400 pieces of silver, but what is that between friends? Go ahead and bury your dead.”
16 So Abraham agreed to Ephron’s price and paid the amount he had suggested—400 pieces of silver, weighed according to the market standard. The Hittite elders witnessed the transaction.
17 So Abraham bought the plot of land belonging to Ephron at Machpelah, near Mamre. This included the field itself, the cave that was in it, and all the surrounding trees.
18 It was transferred to Abraham as his permanent possession in the presence of the Hittite elders at the city gate.
19 Then Abraham buried his wife, Sarah, there in Canaan, in the cave of Machpelah, near Mamre (also called Hebron).
20 So the field and the cave were transferred from the Hittites to Abraham for use as a permanent burial place.
Journal:
- Write about a time when you took one step forward after a season of loss.
- How did God meet you in that step?
- What did you learn about His faithfulness?