Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly. Matthew 1:19
Yesterday’s dose was focused on women and their purpose in creation. Today I want to talk about men and God’s plan for them in the family unit. When God gave Eve to Adam, he said this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. Then God joined them together and they became one flesh. Adam named her woman because she came out of man or in other words, she was part of him.
In today’s scripture, we see Joseph, Jesus’ earthly father, wanting to protect Mary from becoming a public example. Even though, I’m sure he was hurt and confused about the news of her being pregnant, he didn’t respond in anger and determine to make her pay for the pain she had caused him. He had in mind to deal with her in private to protect her reputation and he did not want to shame her.
This is a perfect example of God’s heart for the way a husband loves and cares for his wife. God wanted man to protect and provide for her. The directive God gave was not, this is someone who will complete you and help you in all your accomplishment, (even though she does do that). Rather it was: Here is a precious gift for you to nurture, care for and protect from all outside forces. She is a part of you so pay attention to the way you pay attention to yourself. God never intended for man to dominate his wife, that is not the reason God told her to submit to him. He gave the husband responsibility to make sure his wife was his number one priority and that she should trust him because he loves her above all other things in the world including himself.
It is easy to see how God’s plan for a married couple would work if kept in His perfect order. A husband loves his wife above all others (including himself) and she submits everything to him and his direction because she knows he always has her best interest in his heart and likewise she has his. I have heard it said that men want respect from their wife and women want security and I do believe this is true. However, the kind of security she wants is in knowing that she is the most precious and protected person in his world by him, not the security of dollars in the bank account. If he holds her up as the most precious part of him, she will know she can surrender all to him and he will protect that too.
Today I want to encourage you men/husbands to love your wife in the same way that Christ loves the church and gave Himself for it (Eph. 5:25. Hold her in such a regard that you would even give your life if needed to protect your most precious gift from God. Make her feel secure by the way you lift her far above all other people in your life and trust me, you will have no problem with her submitting to you after that. It is all she wants, but it is up to you to take the first step. Next, I want to encourage wives to honor and respect your husband. If he is a husband that doesn’t quite get the order that God planned, it will be easier for him to do his part if you are doing yours. You don’t need to be telling him the way to love you, instead begin to speak to him with honor and let him take the leading role in your marriage and family. Then pray for him as he steps into the position of head of the household and God will partner with your efforts because you are lined up with the way He created marriage to be successful.
Today’s scripture reading: Matthew 1:18-25
18 Now the birth of Jesus Christ was as follows: After His mother Mary was betrothed to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Spirit. 19 Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not wanting to make her a public example, was minded to put her away secretly. 20 But while he thought about these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take to you Mary your wife, for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. 21 And she will bring forth a Son, and you shall call His name Jesus, for He will save His people from their sins.” 22 So all this was done that it might be fulfilled which was spoken by the Lord through the prophet, saying: 23 “Behold, the virgin shall be with child, and bear a Son, and they shall call His name Immanuel,” which is translated, “God with us.” 24 Then Joseph, being aroused from sleep, did as the angel of the Lord commanded him and took to him his wife, 25 and did not know her till she had brought forth her firstborn Son. And he called His name Jesus.